Energy Management Filter
Evaluate commitments by the energy they consume or create
- Difficulty
- Moderate
- Time to result
- ~weeks to results
- Steps
- 5
- Confidence
- 95%
Manage variable energy, not only fixed time. Audit recurring people, clients, and activities by how you feel able to engage after them: some interactions create enthusiasm and capacity, while others reliably drain it. For persistent drains, reduce exposure, redesign the interaction, establish boundaries, or remove the commitment when appropriate. Use the same signal to assess a side pursuit. Work that is demanding yet energizing may indicate genuine interest and sustainable fit; work that remains a draining slog may not. The filter is not a demand for constant ease, but a way to allocate limited energy deliberately across the same twenty-four hours.
Origin
Haden introduces energy management while explaining his provocative advice to fire a friend and assessing whether a side hustle is a genuine passion.
Core principles
- 01Time is fixed while usable energy varies
- 02People and activities can create or drain energy
- 03Sustained enthusiasm is evidence of fit
- 04Boundaries can change an interaction without ending it
How to run it
- 1
Map recurring demands
List the people, clients, and activities that regularly occupy your time.
Pro tip Include informal obligations, not only calendar events.
- 2
Measure the after-effect
Notice whether each interaction leaves you energized, neutral, or depleted.
Pro tip Judge recurring patterns rather than one bad day.
Watch out Do not confuse the normal effort of meaningful work with chronic depletion.
- 3
Redesign the drains
Reduce frequency, set a boundary, change the format, or end the commitment when a drain persists.
Pro tip Changing how you interact may be enough.
Watch out Handle family and close relationships with care rather than treating the filter mechanically.
- 4
Protect generators
Preserve the work and relationships that create enthusiasm and usable energy.
Pro tip Place energizing work where it can carry you into the next task.
- 5
Test pursuit fit
Use the energy pattern alongside financial and practical evidence to decide whether to continue a side pursuit.
Watch out Energy is one signal, not the only decision criterion.
In the wild
Someone notices that every meeting with a long-standing friend leaves them depleted. Instead of continuing purely from habit, they reduce the frequency and change the setting of the interaction to protect energy without necessarily ending the relationship.
→ The relationship consumes less of the energy needed for other commitments.
Haden notes that Taha could work longer on her podcast and LinkedIn services because the work was fun and generated energy, even alongside a full-time role.
→ The energy signal supported the conclusion that the pursuit was a strong fit.
Common mistakes
Managing hours but ignoring energy
A technically available hour has little value when prior interactions have depleted the ability to use it well.
Calling every hard task a drain
Meaningful work can be difficult while still producing enthusiasm and fulfillment.
Is it for you?
Best for
It is best for busy people choosing relationships, clients, and side projects under limited capacity.
Not ideal for
It is not ideal as an excuse to avoid every necessary task that feels difficult.
From the transcript
“what rarely gets discussed is energy management and what really matters to you is your ability to manage your energy”
“time is fixed we all have 24 hours but the energy that you have to apply within the time that you're spending doing something that…”
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